Today i met my dad.......he came to see ....and started talking about wedding...

His point were........
1. when u marry you marry mother of your kids
2. When u marry ......looking for westernaisation is like salt.......too much is salty...little is not tasty.......so must balance......and its upto u to limit it
3. love marriage brings everything in table.....nice talks........but when when u get married brings problem with adjustment
4. Married to gf......ex, she will say put this shoes there and shocks there but your wife.....she will tell but do it herself as well
5. Love marriage brings trouble disscussion on table but arrange marrige fixes it
6. Love marriage for ex, fight with gal...she goes back to home...her parents may say leave him but arrange marriage ....her parents try to solve problem
7. Arrange marriage brings more love and it glues relationship after kids........but love marriages.......its breaks it up.....not in all case

dyamm...........i cant tell all but any views on it

All I have to say is that:

What are you looking for? Are you looking for a life partner, a friend, to grow up together in life and share each and every moments together
or
someone who listens to you always, doesn''t talk back at you, does what you ask of her, no fightback, always peace in the family (so you think).

You can listen as much as you want to what your dad have to say but its your life and at some point you have to make a decision.

hera saathi.....timro nam nai moneyminded.....
if you do love marriage where is the money(daijo) if marry aggenged you get it all... I am suggesting you to demand anyting from the brides side... it is a given fact they will give you something (for the comfort of their daughter)..... you might not want all that .. you can reject it too... it is all upto you..........

I think your dad is right..... lovers are more demanding than arrenged ones..... when it comes to the point of argueing..... lovers tend to get mad easily..... arrenged ones try to compormise and bring peace......

but before you marry arranged........ try to get to know the bride...... take her out a few times..... dont' try to have sex.... but try to find out what she likes and wants out of life... try to get to know her and tell her about yourself............ jumping into arranged marriage blindly is stupid.... but if you do it the right way..... arranged marriages will last longer than most love marriages.....but there are exceptions to love marrage too.................

Dogg it is all upto u.......

Moneyminded,
My suggestion; don't learn from your dad's words, learn from his deeds. Did you not claim that your dad and mom's relationship is a mess?

My dads words.........
1. No
2.Hundainaa
3. Pardainaa
4. No chance
5. HUndai hundainaa
6. Sambhawanaa nai chainaa
7. Chainaa
8. Nabhaye nahoos
9. bhayenaa
10. talaai garnaa aundainaa
etc.................................................lots more lekheraa sadhyaa chainaa :P

Baule j sukai bhanun..... aafno b-hay garne umer bha chaina aajai... baru yi sundar nari ko hun kunni... net ma ghumdai janda yinko tasbir phela paryo... kasai lai taha cha ko hun yi sundar nari...

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Damn! C is really beautiful..
Is C a nepali? If C is ...I must admitt, C is one of the most prettiest nepali I have ever seen..

BTW, where did u get this pic, Dpac

Hurrya bro,,,,,,,,,,,,,i had a problem with his family coz of my dad not mum. My dad has money and he gets all the bitch ......i even know he has holiday villa in sebu phillipines.......i even know he has bitch in there. He confess infront of me saying" if u r mum was not there my son would not be like what are they today"> i am proud of my wife. I wont be like my dad but dude my dad's realise it then must be reason. I know my dad is not satisfied with my mum but look how my mum raise me and my bro dispite that.......u want that in wife.......

I don't want to comment on your personal matter, but it looks like you are looking for someone who can take all your crap without uttering a word and not a wife who will share love, happiness, sadness together with you. Basically you want a relationship which is not reciprocal. If that's the case, please do not marry and ruin someone else's life. You will be better off alone.

Hurray bro ........i am very open minded and i wont do that to my wife what my mum did? It dosnot meant that i carry losse character genes like him. I will love my wife and i dont mind doing household things. If my wife cooks then i will wash dish. If she does laundary then i will dry the cloths. I belive wife is shaathi not dasshi.............dude, i know where to pick bad and good points...........but in the mean time , i dont want her to be unsocial person coz i have lots of diff natioanlites fren. I want her to be part of family.............

MM, good to hear that you have learnt positively from your dad's deeds. I know you personally and I understand your feelings and how your family life has affected you through out your growing up.
The thing is, we nepalese very rarely question our parents no matter how bad they have been as parents or as a father or as a mother. We deny how badly our mom or dad's been affected by each other's spouse's behaviour, and cosecutively how that has affected us. For a simple example, sending a kid to a boarding school when he she is just six years old, no matter what others say, for me is a bad thing. But there have been people who have been in such situation and still don't refrain to send their kids to such schools.
Anyway, goodluck on your marriage and hope you and your wife have a wonderful life together.

Hurray bro, I know u use to live near my family or some where between khari ko bot..........U have seen me grow up in proverty and going to " Dhunge dhara to get water from there" I am still same .........i have good job but what i have learnt is love is not everything, Love dosenot give u food and job. I have became practical. ..............my dad was asshole but i have forgive him now. He was saying sorry to me last week for what he did? I am taking care of my brother education as well coz i take it as challlage but now he wants to help me? He has changed and he has returned home.......for us........dude every couples and family goes through this kind of life but we are happy to have open family ......today, we known about him everything. I ensure one thing , if i choose gal out of 6 she is going to be most happieset person in life..........................................I cant blame my father for everything as well...........he was oversea for us to provide food so he was not in contact with his wife physically for 3 yrs so he had relation with other women. It is my mother fault to take it as taboo as well. If my mother was good in bed then it could have no problem........there is prob from both side...today they are getting together.........it is great news....we never annouce our parents were divorce coz of reputation on society

Dude, TMA why should hide about my parents relationship. Sorry, dude my mentality has change from swiss to melbourne to HK>..........i dont care.....dude, this is not my problem but problem of 60 precent of family in sajha. They dont care to talk, i care and i talk. I dont mind...........Only thing i dont want to talk here is about Vipasana.......i lost here coz of my stupidity.......but everything is destined.....if i have to be with her, one day no doubt.........i wont forgive for losing her. She came near but i lost her.......dude.........sorry if u think i am making bad impression of my parents.....but i got to talk about it.....they are old now and they are relasing.......at this age sex matter doesnot count........when i talk with my dad an mum frankily about their relation. If u think i am physco .........yes i am